CONFIDENCE — How to be more confident in just 15 Steps

1- Accept Your Flaws

This is a universal rule that nobody is flawless and perfect in this world. This is the habit of successful and confident people that they admit their mistakes and try to fix them. Because when you try to hide your mistakes and start arguing with the person who highlights your miss happens, you can’t be a mature person. A low error personality is actually the perfect one.

2- Add “I don’t care” to your personality

“I don’t care” is a negative expression though but this is essential sometimes. When you express your views confidently without any hesitation, after the conversation your brain starts overthinking that the person must be thinking negatively about you. There is no reality in such thoughts that’s why you have to say “I don’t care”.

3- Be Physically Fit

Physical fitness is very important to everyone because body language is the visual part of your personality. If your body language is confident, you can automatically talk confidently. But poor body language is the symbol that you lack confidence. So, to become physically fit, the gym is the best option.

4- Do Not Compare

One of the most important thing to be a confident person is to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison is the antonym of confidence. When you compare yourself to others, you not only disrespect your dignity but your unique qualities too, that make you exceptional in the crowd. You have to admit that God has made you different from others and you should not try to copy others.

5- Don’t Be Ashamed Of Your Natural Exceptions

This point is also of prime importance. This is the defect in our society that we’ve set some useless merits. For example, we have been listening since childhood that dark skin tone is ugly and people with bright skin tones are pretty ones. People with spotted cheeks are ugly and clear skin is beautiful. This causes the people with dark skin tone and spotted skin to think that they are inferior to white and clear skin people and they are worse than them. They ultimately lose confidence

6- Embrace Failure

Failure is the most important part of life. This is human nature that we don’t accept failures. But you need to understand that failure is part of the journey, not the destination. You have to accept failures. Here you can get motivation from the life of successful people who accept failures confidently.

7- Learn To Say “No“

This point is very important because this is related to rejection or the negative point that raises your confidence to a very high level. This “No” is actually of two types. The first type is that you have to say no to parties during the hustle, no to quit, no to give up, no to useless relationships, and no to time-wasting stuff.

8- Observe more than you talk

Strong observation is a key thing. In this step, you have to detect the environment before giving your statement. For this, you have to ask yourself a few questions i.e:

  • Is this the right time to speak?
  • Will the person in front, get my points?
  • Are the words I’m going to use suitable to this situation?

9- Positive Body Language

This point is very much related to the point of “physical fitness” discussed earlier. Body language is the visual display of your confidence level. A smooth and confident body language leaves a positive impression and makes your speech impactful. So you must use some small body gestures while talking, this will show that you are totally involved in that conversation and confident about what you are saying.

10- Practice Self Talk

Self-talk is a very essential tip to become a confident person. You can express your thoughts in front of someone only when you can express that thought in front of yourself first. If you feel hesitation in talking to someone or feel fear in expressing your views in front of a crowd, then this part is very important to you. This fear may lead to Agoraphobia.

11- Stay humble

Though this point is related to personality development, this has very much to do with your confidence too. As mentioned earlier that you should use words and accents according to the situation. When you stay humble while talking to a person, he remains involved in the conversation and pays full attention to you. He wants to talk to you again.

12- Stop arguing with fools

Though the argument is a good thing until it is limited to the discussion. Discussions improve your knowledge and help in mind grooming. But there are some rules of arguments. You can discuss your thoughts, observations, and knowledge with someone, this increases confidence and strengthens the knowledge. There are some points that need to keep in mind while arguing.

13- Stop Seeking Other’s Approval

This topic is about asking for permission or suggestions. You don’t need any approval from someone that you can do it or not. This was you who saw that dream, you are the one who is going to hustle to achieve that goal, then why do you need any approval from someone who doesn’t even watch get spark inside you. People can just demoralize you and highlight the hurdles.

14- Take care of your physical appearance

Physical appearance is a very important point that you need to take care of. Your physical appearance is the first prominent display that a person notices before your words. A neat and clean appearance automatically improves your confidence level. Because this makes a good image of you in your mind and you start assuming yourself a confident person.

15- Write Your Qualities & Skills

To become a confident person this point is of prime importance. Writing is alternative to overthinking. If you are an overthinker and have lack confidence, you can avoid this by following these simple rules. You have to take a pencil and a notebook and write down all your fears and complexes on one side. On the other side, write all your powers, skills and qualities.

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